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Name It to Tame ItPutting a word on a feeling doesn’t get rid of it, but it changes your relationship to it. A feeling swept through unnamed can run the whole show; a ftherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Feelings Held in the BodySome people describe old feelings as staying lodged in the body — a tight jaw, a held breath, tension that outlasts whatever caused it. That’s a commotherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Regulating Your Nervous SystemThe body has ways of calming itself once a threat has passed — a slow exhale, a change of position, something steady to look at. These aren’t tricks ttherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Coping Skills and Crisis SkillsA coping skill gets you through an ordinary hard moment — stress, a bad mood, a rough day. A crisis skill is for something more urgent: overwhelming dtherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Grounding Through the BodyGrounding is bringing attention back to right now, through the senses and the body — what you can see, hear, feel underfoot — when your mind has gone therapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Loosening Emotional BlocksAn emotional block is a place feeling seems to stop short — numbness where sadness should be, a blank where anger should be. Loosening one usually isntherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Reframing: Choosing Your StoriesReframing is noticing that most events can honestly be told more than one way — and that you get some say in which telling you carry forward. It isn’ttherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Common Thinking TrapsCognitive distortions are the everyday thinking traps a stressed mind falls into: a guess treated as fact, one flaw as the whole picture, a fear as a therapy the same subject, another way — practice card
How to Change How You ThinkChanging how you think isn’t forcing a happier thought — it’s noticing the thought that’s running, questioning whether it holds up, and trying one thatherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Describe It, Don’t Judge ItJudging a feeling adds a second layer on top of the first — “I shouldn’t feel this,” “this is stupid.” Describing it just states what’s there: where itherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Having a Thought vs. Buying a ThoughtA thought is an event in the mind, not a fact about the world. Most of the pain thoughts cause comes from buying them — believing them the instant thetherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Mindfulness for BeginnersMindfulness is paying attention to what’s actually happening right now — this breath, this sound, this feeling — without immediately sorting it into gtherapy
The Stories You Tell YourselfSelf-deception is the small, ordinary editing the mind does to a hard truth before it lets it in — ‘I wasn’t that upset’ instead of the plainer sting.therapy the same subject, another way — practice card
The Big PictureThe big picture is the direction underneath your goals — not what you’re trying to achieve this month, but what all of it is pointing toward. A goal ftherapy
Purpose, Joy, Love, and GrowthHappiness is a mood that rises and falls with sleep and circumstance. Purpose, connection, love, and growth tend to hold steadier — they’re about whattherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Honoring Your ValuesA value is something that matters enough to act on — honesty, kindness, courage. Honoring it means closing the gap between naming it and living it: notherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Letting Go of Self-Limiting LabelsA self-limiting label — ‘I’m lazy,’ ‘I’m bad at this’ — takes a pattern, some slow weeks, and flattens it into a fixed verdict on who you are. Lettingtherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
A Growth MindsetA growth mindset treats ability as something that develops with effort, not something fixed at birth — ‘not good at this yet,’ not ‘just not good at ttherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
What Emotions Are ForEvery emotion carries two things: information about what’s happening, and a nudge toward what to do about it. Fear says move away from danger. Anger stherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Creating Sustainable ChangeSustainable change tends to come from small, repeatable moves, not one big overhaul. A two-minute habit is easy to keep doing even on a hard day, in atherapy
The Choice: Act, Accept, or Walk AwayFacing a hard situation, there are really three moves available: act to change it, accept it as it is, or step away from it. Staying stuck — re-litigatherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Clean Pain and Dirty PainClean pain is what a hard moment costs — the ache of a loss, the sting of a mistake. Dirty pain is what gets added on top: the story that it shouldn’ttherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
The Struggle With StruggleAvoiding a hard feeling usually doesn’t make it smaller — it makes the avoiding into its own problem, on top of the original one. What starts as one utherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
WillingnessWillingness is agreeing to feel what’s already here, without adding resistance on top. It doesn’t mean wanting the feeling, or thinking it’s fair — jutherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Primary and Secondary EmotionsA primary emotion is the first, direct response to what happened — sadness at a loss, fear at a threat. A secondary emotion is what you feel about thatherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Where Feelings Show Up in the BodyEmotions aren’t only in the mind — many people notice them landing somewhere in the body first: a tight chest, a dropped stomach, tension across the stherapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Strong Emotion and Clear ThinkingUnder a strong enough emotion, clear thinking is thought to get harder — options narrow, the same worry loops, small things feel urgent. This isn’t a therapy the same subject, another way — practice card
Cognitive DissonanceCognitive dissonance is the discomfort of holding two things that don’t fit — a belief and an action, or two beliefs at once. The psychologist Leon Fetherapy the same subject, another way — practice card

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